How to handle a narcissist
Do you have a manager or colleague who is charismatic and charming for a while and really uncomfortable next? Perhaps the person is narcissistic – a disorder similar to psychopathy. A good self-esteem, great difficulty in taking criticism and problems with how others think and feel. These are all signs of narcissism, a personality disorder similar to psychopathy. Perhaps you have a manager or colleague who fits into the description? Narcissists are often charismatic and dominant, and it makes them perceived as good leaders, though it is really the opposite. In addition, they are often good at selling themselves. Many people may have one or more narcissistic features, without being narcissists, so try to diagnose the colleague or the boss is a bad idea. At the same time, a narcissist can cause major damage to an organization and therefore it is important to know the warning signs, and get help to handle the person if necessary.
How to recognize a narcissist
The narcissist’s most typical feature is an excessively good self-esteem. Often the person blows up his businesses and talents and sees himself as superior, although there is no reason for it. The narcissist also considers himself more general and intelligent than the average.
Outgoing but oempathetic
In social situations, the narcissist is outward and dominant, and can be very charismatic. However, the person usually does not feel particularly sympathetic because it neither understands nor cares about the thoughts and feelings of others.
Sure of himself
Being overly sure of their knowledge is another feature. Some narcissists can even claim to know things that are not true, probably because knowledge slots would lower their status. If a narcissist gets the question “Do you know when the Placido treaty was signed”, the person may answer yes, despite the absence of any Placido treaty.
Difficult to acknowledge mistakes
Since the narcissist finds it difficult to see his own mistakes and deficiencies, the person also has difficulty in taking criticism, and may instead be angry, blame or listen to listening. A narcissist rarely apologizes, and can continue to claim that they are right, even when the opposite is proven.
The narcissist has a great need for attention, and it can take many expressions. One study shows, for example, that people who emphasize much in social media are also narcissistic than others. Often the person places great emphasis on status markers, such as fine titles, their appearance, and expensive brands.
As superior and chosen, the narcissist believes that he also has greater rights and powers than “ordinary” people. Getting high boss jobs, big bonuses, and using company resources for your own winnings can be seen as self-explanations of a narcissist. Likewise, to utilize and manipulate other people for their own needs.
8 ways to handle a narcissit at work
- Ignore and do not react if they are rude
- Communicate on their level and self-image: “It was generous of YOU to …”
- Have eye contact and talk in a clear, but not critical way
- Do not try to look for their empathetic side
- Do not criticize the person for the rest of the workplace
- Never be too personal with the narcissist
- Avoid further arguments
- If you are verbally attacked. Mark by saying, “That’s not okay” and go away.